GARR (Georgia Adoption Reunion Registry) contacted me via email telling me they’d received my filled out and notarized forms and are starting their research. They also told me they’d approved my financial assistance as this stuff is not free, by any means. They asked me to write a letter to my biological mom for their records. If I go further and try to find her, GARR would do that and eventually end up reading my letter to her over the phone, granted she’s still alive and wants to get to know me.
What follows is the letter I’ve written to this woman. It’s difficult to write a letter to someone you don’t know, have never met, and don’t even know if they’re alive still, but here it is….
To my birth mother:
Hello m’am, my name is Gary and I’d like to bring you up to date about me,
and I’m interested in you too. I was adopted at 3 days old by a wonderful
couple who’d been married 20 years at that time.
I couldn’t have handpicked better folks. I had a very interesting and good
childhood in Augusta and have made a few attempts over the years to contact
you at the urging of my Mom. When my birthday rolled around each year, she’d
say “I bet your Mom wonders about you; where you are, how you are, etc.’ and
I think you should try to find her. I made one attempt as a Senior in High
School in 1981, and another try as a Senior in College in 1990.
I have three degrees, an A.A., and A.S., and a Bachelor’s from Florida State
University. I also attended summer school at the Universitat Konstanz in
Germany in 1985 and got a certificate of attendance from there. I have a
large presence on-line and own two websites, which I handle myself.
(BeardedGents.com , and BeardedGents.me)
I am currently on Long Term Disability from an auto accident I had in
upstate New York in November of 1991. I have worked at part time odd jobs
over the years since, but am presently not working. I go to the gym 5-6 days
a week, walk about 25 miles per week, and am trying to take good care of
myself. I have a nearly 10 year old corgi named Toby who keeps me company
and is my partner in crime, so to speak.
I do hope you’re well as I am, having made it to 53 years old. (Never
imagined being in my 50’s) You brought me into this World and my folks
guided and supported me through Life and helped me get this far. I’ve since
lost both parents, Mom passed in 1999 at 74 years old, and Dad went in 2002
at 81 years old.
If you’d ever like to exchange letters, emails, or even photos, I’d be happy
to share with you. I’m very interested in my heritage and medical history,
as I get older, and doctors always ask.
Gary W. Norman